DEAR AMY: My husband and I are expecting our first child, and my in-laws are very excited. They are already
planning a visit to meet their new grandchild. But the in-laws want to bring their aggressive dogs, too.
The dogs have bitten me and others on many occasions.
One is very large and will attack anyone that gets too close to her owner.
I don’t want these dogs anywhere near the baby, but my in-laws are insistent that if the dogs aren’t welcome, then they’re not welcome.
I know my husband wants to see his parents (who rarely visit because of the dogs). But he is terribleabout putting his foot down with them, and they commonly ignore my concerns. What can I do?
Worried Future Mom
DEAR WORRIED: Your first duty as a parent is to protect your baby. This is a rock-solid parenting nonnegotiable. Your baby should not be exposed to these aggressive dogs — in your home or theirs — until you are certain that it is safe.
Because your husband might not convey your point of view in a forceful enough way, you will need to state to all parties: “I won’t deliberately expose our baby to aggressive dogs. If you won’t visit our home without the dogs, then I understand that you’ll stay away. We’ll introduce you to your grandchild another time.”
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 4.5 million dog bites occur each year in the U.S. Children are the most frequently bitten. This is a preventable risk.
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