One of my favorite quotes from the 16th president of the United States is, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” How have you done on making up your mind to be happy?
When I first read this, I took it at face value. What that meant to me was in the moment of a given situation I had a choice to either be happy or some form of not happy. I, therefore, better choose happy darn it. When I receive bad news, don’t pass a test, find myself in an argument with a friend or loved one, or lose a job, what is there to be happy about? There may not be anything at all to be happy about at first glance. Keep in mind happiness is a state of mind and not a state of affairs.
Upon deeper examination of the quote what came to me is the part — ‘make up their minds’. Then I asked myself how do people tending to be happier make up or actually set up their minds and what goes into and influences the setting up of a mind. In this case I equate the mind to a paradigm which is our lens or filter through how we dynamically process what is going on within us and around us to eventually give it all meaning.
Let’s face it, all people are self-made people … only the successful and happy ones seem to admit it though. The rest look to point the finger at others they perceive to have held them back, didn’t give them a shot, or pushed them down. They suspect it, whatever it is, was easier for others and hard for them.
Successful happy people assembled the rules and regulations of their own mind in advance and on an ongoing basis so it is prepared to give them the best shot at being happy no matter what comes along and to enable them to achieve the…
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