When I was in the hospital room after giving birth to my daughter, Ava, a nurse came in the room and screeched, “Why is she sleeping on her back? That’s not safe!” She briskly wrapped up poor little Ava and flipped her over onto her stomach. About 40 minutes later another nurse came in, looked at Ava and screeched, “The baby shouldn’t be on her stomach!” Poor Ava was flipped again. I didn’t make note of it in her baby book, but it was a milestone: baby’s first time being a victim of poor parenting advice.
For the record, the current wisdom is that babies should sleep on their backs. But that could change. Over the years, many self-proclaimed experts have doled out all kinds of wrong-headed, if not openly dangerous, advice.
Lately I’ve been browsing through old parenting advice books (many of them are available for free online because they’re not just old, they’re public-domain old) and finding myself fascinated – not only by the odd advice they offer, but by the peek into the mores of the times and, often, the psyche of the author.
“The danger of too much mother love” was of dire concern to John Watson, the founder of behaviorism. In his 1928 book “Psychological Care of Infant and Child,” he advised mothers to treat children as little adults. “Never hug or kiss them. Never let them sit on your lap,” said Watson, a man who might have had some mommy issues of his own.
“If you must, kiss them once on the forehead at bedtime, but shake hands with them in the morning,” he added darkly, implying that giving a kid a hug was a weakness akin to sneaking into the alley for a smoke.
There was a whole chapter on the scourge of “The Puny…
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