Dear Annie: Mom learns to pick battles with ADHD child | The Daily Courier – Arizona News

Dear Annie: Mom learns to pick battles with ADHD child | The Daily Courier – Arizona News

Dear Annie: I have an 11-year-old daughter who has ADHD. Most of the time we are able to control her behaviors and impulsiveness with medication. I have learned over the years to pick my battles with her behaviors.

My mom recently told me about a family reunion coming up. I told her that I would not be attending. Being surrounded by large groups of people tends to overwhelm my daughter and makes her behaviors worse. A lot of the family that is going to be there I haven’t seen in probably 20 years. Though I would like to see some of them, I don’t feel it’s fair to force my daughter into a situation that is very uncomfortable for her.

I suggested getting a babysitter so I could attend, but my mom is saying that I’m not welcome without my daughter because I’m letting her dictate my life. According to my mom, I am to make my daughter go and make her behave. How can I tell my mom that with that many people it’s just too stressful for my daughter and that she has not yet learned the skills to deal with all that anxiety? I’m conflicted. I want to be able to see my family and do what’s right for my daughter, too. — Torn in Wisconsin

Dear Torn in Wisconsin: It sounds as if Grandmother is trying to play Mother. It’s up to you to decide what’s best for your daughter. If you’re at all open to it, ask your daughter if she would like to go for a little while and meet everyone, and have a babysitter with you in case she feels overwhelmed and needs to leave. If you’d rather not try that, I say leave your daughter with a sitter and go to the reunion anyway. Your mother is not the only person who will be there. I’m sure your other family members…

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